Giving? Grounded? Helpful?)
29. What you could honestly be defined by at this point, based on your consistent actions and interactions, and whether or not that’s what you really want.
30. How your unconscious assumptions about what’s true and real are shaping the way you think of reality.
31. What other options exist outside of your default way of thinking; what would be true if the things you assumed were not.
32. The details of whatever it is you’re working on right now.
33. How you can possibly put more effort into said work that deserves your time and attention and energy more than whatever you become distracted by does.
34. How you can help other people, even just by sitting down to speak with an old friend, buying someone dinner, sharing an article or a quote that resonated with you.
35. Other people’s motivations and desires.
36. The fact that you do not think the exact way other people think, and that perhaps the issues you have with them are not issues, but lapses in your understanding of them (and theirs of you).
37. The patterns of the people you know, and what they tell you about whom they really are.
38. The fact that we assume people are as we imagine them—a compilation of the emotional experiences we’ve had with them—as opposed to the patterns they reveal to us in their behavior. It’s more accurate to sum people up by what they repeatedly do.
39. What you would say if you could tell every single person in the world just one thing.
40. What you would say if you could tell your younger self just one thing.
41. The years of practice it takes to learn to play each instrument in your favorite song. The power and creativity it takes to simply come up with a melody, forget a piece of music that moves you to your core.
42. Where your food comes from.
43. What your big objective is. If you don’t know what you generally want to do with your precious, limited time here, you’re not going to do much of anything at all.
44. What you’d put in one box if you had to move to the other side of the country and could only bring that.
45. Getting to inbox 0.
46. How much your pet loves you.
47. How you can adequately and healthfully allow yourself to feel and express pain when it comes up (as opposed to just freaking out and trying to get rid of it as fast as possible).
48. Plot twists. The complexities and contradictions of your favorite characters in your favorite books.
49. Who you would be happy to also live for, if your own desires and interests were no longer your sole priority.
50. What your future self would think and say about whatever situation you’re in right now.
51. An upcoming trip, whether it’s booked or not. What you’re going to do, what you’re going to take pictures of, what you can explore, who you’ll be with, who you’ll meet.
52. The hardest nights of your life. What you would have done differently. What you would do if you could re-enter those hours and advise your past self.
53. The best nights of your life. Not only what you were doing and who you were with, but what you were thinking and what you were focusing on.
54. The fact that it is hard to do everything: It’s hard to be in a relationship, it’s hard not to be in one. It’s hard to have to perform at a job you love and are emotionally invested in, it’s hard not to be living your dreams by a certain age. Everything is hard; it’s just a matter of what you think is worth the effort.
55. What you think is worth that effort. What you are willing to suffer for.
56. Aesthetics that you love. The kind of spaces you not only want to live and work in, but which make you feel most like yourself.
57. What actions, choices, and behaviors you think could have saved your parents.
58. Your singular, deepest fear.
59. What your singular, deepest fear tells you about your singular, deepest desire.
60. The little wonders. The smell of rain when the windows are open in the summer, your favorite T-shirt, songs you loved as a kid, your favorite food when you’re hungry.
61. Your stories. The strange and simple and beautiful things you’ve experienced and how you can better share them with other people.
62. What you will be motivated by when fear is no longer an option.
63. What you are motivated to do when fear is no longer an option.
64. What “enough” means to you. What’s enough money, enough love, enough productivity. Fulfillment is a product of knowing what
“enough” is—otherwise you will be constantly seeking more.
65. Your dream moments. Having a birthday party in which all the people you love attend, or getting on a plane to Thailand, or losing the weight you’ve always wanted to, or being debt-free, or renovating a house.
66. What you’d do if you had $1,000 of extra disposable income each month.
