āItās not just about the success or failure of your career, you know that, right? Itās about why you write. What it means to you. Why you write about romance yet seem so opposed to experiencing it in an open and vulnerable way.ā
āTesting out storylines, are we?ā I mutter darkly.
She shrugs. āMaybe weāll save that for the second one-on-one.ā Sheās not looking at me now; sheās texting.
āYou ready?ā Charlotte asks me after she puts her phone away.
I take a deep breath. āLetās go.ā
THEY REALLY DID the damn thing for this date with a table set up far on a ledge overlooking the ocean. Andi had mentioned to me that the dinner portion of her one-on-one date was at a generic hotel, but the backdrop of our date is beautiful, perched up just above the blue water of the Pacific Ocean with the flashing lights on the Santa Monica pier stretched out below us, palm trees swaying next to a long bike path, and the mountains just over my shoulder.
Itās easy to talk to Marcus, looking especially dashing in his perfectly tailored blue sports coat. Heās open and smiles often, in on a joke with himself. He tells me about his life back in Chicago, the tech sales job heās still able to hold down, even with his extended time on the show, the restaurants he likes to visit, and the things weād do together there.
I lean into my hand, staring at him across our untouched food, a plate of red Italian sausage pasta that looks mouthwatering, but fits in with neither my diet nor the sound design of the show. āI canāt believe Iām saying this, but I can see it. Us together in Chicago.ā And then I laugh at myself because itās embarrassing.
āWhy do you hate to say it?ā he asks, interested. Iām surprised by the question. Marcus had never quite seemed at ease with this process on Shaileneās season either, so Iād thought heād picked up on my discomfort.
āThis,ā I say, gesturing around at the menagerie of people watching us not eat and talk, āis insane. I just wasnāt sure how Iād cope. Iām not sure I am coping, but something about this whole thing, about you, is sucking me in.ā
He likes that, leans in closer and grabs my hand. Truthfully, talking to men has never been particularly difficult for me because I do have some idea what they like. What they want to hear. I feel myself retracting into that role because itās one I know well. Itās the most ideal time of any in my life to playact, but some part of me wants to stop it.
āCan I tell you something that might weird you out?ā I ask, unable to meet his eye, trying to flex my hand heās holding. āItāsāā But I feel myself being too real and want to stop it. āI donāt know, maybe itāsāā
āNo,ā Marcus says, tilting my chin up so he can see me, a bounciness still in his voice, ānow you have to tell me.ā
āFine,ā I say, blushing deeply. I push my hair back from my face. Thereās a breeze on the air. āMeeting you has been so wonderful and being with you really has lived up to every expectation I couldāve imagined, butāand this is going to make me sound so ridiculousāa little part of me fell in love with you last season.ā
I notice then that Marcus has absolutely been whitening his teeth because his smile is so bright, it almost blinds me. He lets me go on.
āBut notānot just what the edit showed of you. There was this moment, when you were talking about your dadās cancer diagnosis, and it was so vulnerable and so real, and you were so damn articulate.ā I almost choke on that, but I manage to keep it together. āI donāt know, my grandmother had cancer, but it was different. I justāit was devastating, what you said, you were devastating, and something about itāit just clicked.ā
It really hadnāt been a part of my game planāit might have been the first time I really just let my narrative go with no thoughtābut I can see the effect itās had on Marcus, the way tenderness has crept into his eyes, his expression so open that even I momentarily buy into our love story. His hand caresses my face, his index finger feather-light as he rubs it against my skin. āWhy are you so amazing?ā he asks.
āIām glad heās okay,ā I say. āYour dad.ā He kisses me softly.
I still remember it, his tears falling onto Shaileneās shoulderāa purple sleeveless dress with a high necklineāas he told her about his fatherās cancer diagnosis. āEvery day, I feel like I get closer to the reality of life without him,ā he said. āI go to sleep imagining living in that world, and itās worse than a nightmare, to imagine losing the one person who made you who you are. Itās like losing an essential organ, but not all at once. You slowly watch them go, turn brittle, lose more of themselves, and you hang on for dear life. You hurt them with your wish for them to stay, and you hate yourself for that, too.ā
His dad had told him to go on the show; I donāt think I could have left my dad under similar circumstances, but I donāt know. I never had to make that choice. And then heād gone into remission. Even Marcusās most virulent critics had been ecstatic.
āI feel like you know so much about me, but youāre still a mystery to me. A good one,ā Marcus adds quickly. āYou used to live in New York?ā
Did I tell him that? I canāt remember.
āYeah,ā I say, wanting quickly to change the subject. Things had been going so well. āBut I just moved back to South Carolina to be closer to my family. My brother is getting married next year.ā
āHow long were you in New York?ā
I swallow. āFive years.ā
āAndĀ .Ā .Ā . were you happy there?ā
My skin is prickling dangerously. Everything in New York is over, but failing feels like it never stops being over.
āI guess not,ā I finally say, hearing the walls going up in my voice.
āA lot of people have told me New York wore them down. Is that what happened to you?ā
Itās nothing, Iāll just brush over it, but my throat starts feeling like itās closing up. New York. Failure. Empty bank accounts and shitty mattresses on the floors of shitty apartments and drinks and more drinks and publishers telling me my book is canceled.
āItās a great city,ā I manage to say. āBut I was homesick. Family is so important to me.ā Thatās what people watching the show always wanted to hear, how much you love your family.
Betrayed, I look at Charlotte, whoās whispering to Janelle. I feel tears pricking my eyes. Angry tears. That story wasnāt meant for the show.
āJac,ā Marcus says quietly. āAre you okay?ā
āIām fine,ā I say, but then a tear escapes down my cheek, cementing me as a liar. āSorry,ā I mutter, grabbing up a napkin and dabbing my face.
āI didnāt meanāā he begins.
āItās nothing you did,ā I tell him, feeling more raw and exposed than I ever want to feel. āItās hard to explain.ā
āIām listening,ā Marcus says, squeezing my hand tighter. I try to give him a closed-lip smile. His dad almost died and Iām crying over a fucking city.
āNew York was hard,ā I finally settle on saying, since I know thatās what they want from me. āTurning thirty and feeling lost was hard. Itās justāā I take a deep breath. āIāve spent a lot of my life searching out happiness. Which seems ridiculous. Thereās nothing wrong in my life, no reason I shouldnāt be happy, but I keep looking for it like itās a hidden treasure everyone else understands and I donāt.ā
āIt may not seem like it,ā Marcus says to me quietly. āBut I know what you mean. Thatās how I felt last season, like that happiness might be right there. Might be Shailene. And it broke my heart when it wasnāt.ā
āBut itās not justāitās not just love, Marcus. Itās everything. Itās all of it.ā I think I should be able to explain it to him, to this man who could be so straightforward and real with his father dying. A dating show didnāt fix that.