“No, no belly rubs for you now. I need a bath.” He tries to stare me down, but I ignore him and head back to the bathroom with my phone held tightly in my hand. Who am I kidding? Not checking for messages was never an option.
As I walk past the full-length mirror, I catch a glimpse of myself. It’s been a while since a man has seen my squishy bits. I casually treat my tummy to a gentle love tap. My belly gives me a wobble shuffle in response. I shrug. I wonder if Ben likes his women thin or like me? No, no. You literally exchanged four messages with him.
"Ah, Smutty, what would you think if I brought a guy with a whip home?" Smutty blinks at me in response and gives me a chirpy little meow.
Weirdly the image that comes to mind is not a certain Mr Grey but Indiana Jones. Ha, BDSM Indy, now that gives Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom a completely different meaning.
I push through the initial pain and stinging sensation when my cold toes dip into the hot water and slide into the warmth. I swear I was a water nymph or a mermaid in my previous life. I could soak in a bath all day, until my fingers and toes resemble an ancient mummy's wrinkles.
Smutty plops himself on the bathmat and keeps a close eye on me. He despises water and always gets overprotective when I take a bath. Silly cat.
I reach for the hand towel hanging from the hook next to the sink and dry my hands before grabbing my phone. I hit the little message button on the dating app, making the first message pop up.
Wilfred
I'm Lord Anal Pain and would like to explore your back passage.
Eww. I almost drop my phone into the water when trying to delete that message. Lord Anal Pain. Seriously?
But there is also a message from Ben.
Ben
And what would "this" be that you missed from your dating life?
Before I can long think about it, my fingers fly over the keyboard typing out my reply.
Me
I'm not sure. I’ve read a few BDSM romance novels and some of what is described in them is not really for me. And people that have contacted me so far are also a bit scary.
Ben
Does that include me?
Instant reply―that's a good sign, right?
Me
No!
I'm talking about Lord Anal Pain.
Me
No, you’ve been different.
Ben
Good. Happy to answer any questions about the community if you have any. Don't trust all you read in books or online.
Me
Okay. So, I googled pleasure dom. That's what you are. Right?
Ben
Yes. I've tried other areas in BDSM, but I found my niche as a pleasure dom.
Me
So I read that you get pleasure from giving pleasure. Does that mean you don't spank?
Ben
That depends on the submissive. If she enjoys spanking, I can provide that. But I don't get aroused from providing pain, it's the pleasure I provide to her that does it for me.
Is that something that worries you? Spanking?
Me
100% I'm not really into spanking or pain.
I don't judge anyone who is, but I have bad associations with that and “sexy” really doesn't come to mind when I think about being hit.
Ben
And you don't have to, if that’s not something you’re into. If anyone tells you otherwise, they are to be treated carefully. Consent is key.
