whole foods, body consciousness and nervous system regulation, 143
Wim Hof breathing method, 135, 140, 141, 193
word choice
communication about needs and, 235–236
language and demonstrations of love, 2, 223
Yes Person conditioned self, 113
described, 116
example of, 104, 106
self-assessment and, 120
yoga, body consciousness and, 146, 147
Yoga with Adriene, 147
About the Author
DR. NICOLE LEPERA is the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling book How to Do the Work and How to Meet Your Self and the creator of the #selfhealers movement, a community of people joining to take healing into their own hands. Dr. LePera received her BA in clinical psychology from Cornell University and her doctorate from The New School for Social Research. Dr. LePera has also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis and has worked with a wide spectrum of patients in a variety of capacities, including couples therapy and substance use treatment and support. Her teachings empower the individual to break free from intergenerational trauma and inherited beliefs to reconnect with their authentic Self and heal their relationships.
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Praise for Dr. Nicole LePera and How to Do the Work
“The world needs this book! No matter where you are on your healing journey, How to Do the Work will guide you to stronger relationships, more joy, and a clearer path for your future. We can’t always control what happens to us, but Nicole gives us a road map on how to respond from a place of healing and inner peace.”
—Lewis Howes, New York Times bestselling author of The School of Greatness
“In her book How to Do the Work, Nicole LePera brilliantly demystifies life-changing therapeutic principles in a way that is easy to digest. This book is a must-read for anyone on a path of personal growth.”
—Gabby Bernstein, #1 New York Times bestselling author
“How to Do the Work is an invitation to do the work with the inner tools we all carry within ourselves. The invitation is yours if you choose to accept it. Wherever you are on your path, Dr. LePera meets you with open arms; your current level of self-mastery is the only prerequisite. This is a guide for your journey of becoming. The world needs your gifts, now more than ever.”
—Karlyn Percil-Mercieca, CEO of KDPM Consulting Group, Inc., certified emotional strategist, and neuro-life coach
“On the surface, Dr. LePera’s book appears to be a ‘how to’ manual, but, at its fundament, it’s a book about understanding the self. For it is only when we deeply understand that we’re able to heal.”
—The Minimalists
“Want more from life? Looking for answers? How to Do the Work will teach you how to find them within yourself. A masterpiece of empowerment—this book changed my life, and trust me, it’ll change yours, too.”
—Mel Robbins, author of the international bestseller The 5 Second Rule
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: LePera, Nicole, author.
Title: How to be the love you seek / Dr. Nicole LePera.
Identifiers: LCCN 2023015277 (print) | LCCN 2023015278 (ebook) | ISBN 9780063267749 (hardcover) | ISBN 9780063267756 (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: Interpersonal relations. | Self-acceptance. | Mind and body. | Healing—Psychological aspects.
Classification: LCC HM1106 .L47 2023 (print) | LCC HM1106 (ebook) | DDC 158.2—dc23/eng/20230413
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2023015277
LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2023015278
Digital Edition NOVEMBER 2023 ISBN: 978-0-06-326775-6
Version 09292023
Print ISBN: 978-0-06-326774-9
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