polyvagal theory, perceptions of safety and, 76–81

Porges, Dr. Stephen, 76

prefrontal cortex, conditioned selves, 120–121

processed foods, avoiding for nervous system regulation, 145

projection communication style, 101

quality time, language and demonstrations of love, 2, 223

quantum mechanics, souls and, 40

relationships, recognizing own active role in, 9–35

author’s early relationships and emotional loneliness, 3–4, 10–17, 24–26, 38, 44–45

changing brain to change relationships, 31–32

checklist for emotional safety and security, 33–35

childhood trauma and, 17–20

childhood’s neurophysiological impact, 27–28

conditioned stress responses and, 28–30

emotional habits and, 109–110

repair after conflict and, 245–246

unmet childhood emotional needs and, 23–24

unmet childhood physical needs and, 21–22

reparenting, empowerment consciousness and, 169

Rescuer/protector conditioned self, 113, 163, 169

described, 115

self-assessment, 119

reticular activating system (RAS) network, of brain, 105

safety and security

checklist for, 33–35

childhood needs for, 20–24, 26

connector mode and, 87, 95

co-regulation and, 206–208

creating by regulation nervous system, 139–140

interdependence and, 226–228

polyvagal theory and, 76–81

relationships, 5–7

Schumann resonances, 258–260

Schwartz, Dr. Richard, 99

Scientific American, 40

scorekeeping communication style, 101

Self Healers Circle, 93, 254, 268

self-actualization, 53

separate togetherness (interdependence), 44, 73–74, 226–228

“serve and return” emotional patterns, 28

Siegel, Dr. Daniel, 27–28, 43, 64

sleep

body consciousness and, 146–147

body’s physical needs and, 46–48

co-regulation and, 216

smiling, relaxation and, 150

social coherence, 44, 251, 252–255

checklist for emotional safety and security, 257

developing of, 255–256

social engagement system, 76