Healing is a journey that involves facing and working through our emotional pain, trauma, and negative patterns of behavior. When we engage in this process of healing, we experience a rebirth of sorts, where we are able to shed our old ways of being and step into a new version of ourselves.

As we go through this rebirth, we deepen our emotional intelligence, emotional depth, self-awareness, and self-concept. Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and understand our emotions, as well as the emotions of others. When we heal, we become more attuned to our emotions and are better able to navigate them in a healthy way. We also deepen our emotional depth, which is the ability to experience and express a wide range of emotions. Through healing, we become more comfortable with our emotions and better at expressing them in a healthy way.

Self-awareness and self-concept are also deepened through healing. As we work through our emotional pain and trauma, we become more aware of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This increased self-awareness allows us to understand ourselves better and make more intentional choices in our lives. We also develop a more positive self-concept as we learn to love and accept ourselves for who we are, rather than feeling shame or self-doubt.

Healing also deepens our personal integrity, which is the alignment between our values, beliefs, and actions. As we work through our negative patterns of behavior and beliefs, we are able to align our values and actions more closely. This alignment helps us feel more authentic and true to ourselves.

Another important aspect of healing is our ability to create emotional safety within ourselves and others. Emotional safety is the feeling of being secure and comfortable in expressing our emotions and being vulnerable. When we heal, we become better able to create emotional safety within ourselves and in our relationships. We learn to be more empathetic, compassionate, and attuned to the emotions of others, which helps us create a safe and supportive environment.

To be intentional with ourselves and our relationships, it is important to continue to prioritize our healing and growth. This means being intentional about setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and communicating our needs and feelings in healthy ways. It also means being intentional about the relationships we cultivate, seeking out those who share our values and support our growth.

The rebirth that comes with healing deepens our emotional intelligence, emotional depth, self-awareness, self-concept, personal integrity, and ability to create emotional safety within ourselves and others. By being intentional with ourselves and our relationships, we can continue to prioritize our healing and growth, creating a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

Acknowledgments

I extend my heartfelt gratitude to the incredible people who made this book possible. To my clients and Inner Circle members, your unwavering support, encouragement, and belief in my work have been the driving force behind this endeavor. Thank you for speaking my name in rooms my feet hadn’t entered yet.

Carol, your vision in recognizing the light within me and your desire to share it with the world have inspired me beyond measure. Your enthusiasm for my work made this happen.

Bryn, I am deeply thankful for your guidance throughout this writing journey. Your wisdom and expertise have been invaluable, guiding me with a steady hand and a push when I needed it.

Johanna, you’ve been the iron fist and lace glove I needed throughout this process. Your unwavering belief in me and your unique blend of strength and compassion have been a source of inspiration.

To each and every one of you who have supported me on this path, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your presence in my life has made a profound difference, and I am truly grateful.

With immense appreciation,

Ginger

About the Author

Ginger Dean is a psychotherapist and founder of Loving Me After We. Her specialty is helping women overcome heartbreak and increase self-love and confidence after a toxic relationship so they can become the best version of themselves.

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Contents

Title Page

Copyright Notice

Dedication

Introduction

Part I. Healing

1. My Story

2. The Decision, Commitment, and Declaration

3. Hermit Mode

4. The Heart Sabbatical

5. External Healing

Part II. Unlocking the Pattern

6. Shadow and Ego Work

7. Survival Mode

8. Decoding Attachment Styles

9. Survival-Based Relationships

Part III. Thriving

10. Moving from Red Flags to Green Flags